tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post1150910637094964526..comments2024-03-28T05:52:50.399-04:00Comments on Autism with a side of fries : Jumping to conclusionsEileen Shaklee http://www.blogger.com/profile/04658354442888448425noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-14871009150097968652015-07-25T11:28:52.546-04:002015-07-25T11:28:52.546-04:00I just found you, and already I'm in love! I&#...I just found you, and already I'm in love! I'm sitting here laughing and nodding my head in agreement through the whole post (especially the part where he needs help wiping)--so much of this applies to me and my Cute One. Thank you! 😄Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02751733142310308009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-87808399278238793552015-07-24T09:17:34.465-04:002015-07-24T09:17:34.465-04:00"He still needs help wiping his own ass."..."He still needs help wiping his own ass." I shouldn't have laughed but I did. Our son just turned seven and he still needs/wants help. In fact, in this house, we celebrate him going to the bathroom, unprompted, on his own. I asked him who wipes his butt at school. His response? "I don't poop at school." Figures.<br /><br />My son is not on the spectrum. While he has many autistic tendencies in social and speech areas, he was labeled with sensory processing disorder and speech disorder (thankfully he talks, but since he was speech delayed, has articulation issues, and never maintain eye contact, he's hard to understand). I have been asked before if he were autistic, and it did not bother me (and yes, I have set them straight on him not being on the spectrum). I always get asked in social places, usually the park, where my son's lack of social skills is most apparent (one time he was building castles out of the wood chips in the playground area while other kids ran around him; he cried when his castles got knocked over). In a way, it's refreshing to be asked straight up instead of people just staring at him and me like he's a freak (which is why we almost never go to birthday parties). :\Stacey Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14352989875183758588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-84854316919279429972015-07-20T20:05:36.257-04:002015-07-20T20:05:36.257-04:00It's better than your own mother-in-law questi...It's better than your own mother-in-law questioning why your son was not held back to repeat first grade and "when school gets too hard, will they just send him to a different school?" I thought he was doing pretty well, but said comments have sent me into a tailspin of doubts. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-53919164874751715972015-07-16T16:25:00.553-04:002015-07-16T16:25:00.553-04:00So well said as always! I hate when other parents ...So well said as always! I hate when other parents comment on fm child's abilities. Especially other special needs parents. I have been made to feel like I should justify my sons diagnosis before. It's not fun. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03422055410978985749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-72257592287570551502015-07-15T22:17:35.760-04:002015-07-15T22:17:35.760-04:00Another commenter stated they don't comment on...Another commenter stated they don't comment on a child's autism until the parents do. I too try to embrace that mentality. Each person is traveling their own road & no one can assume to know another's journey or struggles. Love your words about jumping to conclusions, so very true! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09553788586116553556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-19443772259751576292015-07-15T14:16:27.002-04:002015-07-15T14:16:27.002-04:00Sometimes I am just so exhausted by these interact...Sometimes I am just so exhausted by these interactions. Loved the bar comment! :)kim mccaffertyhttp://autismmommytherapist.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-70845618687384522942015-07-15T01:23:26.266-04:002015-07-15T01:23:26.266-04:00"Kind Words" are NEVER inappropriate. Ki..."Kind Words" are NEVER inappropriate. Kind Words make the world a better place for ALL no matter how sad we are or what comes our way. I'll take compliments all day long. It helps me get through the day when I smile at my son Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-83345515142796001312015-07-15T00:13:37.700-04:002015-07-15T00:13:37.700-04:00Safest bet is to keep your mouth shut when you thi...Safest bet is to keep your mouth shut when you think you've spotted the A, but I'm still new enough to this to appreciate a kind word (even if it's inappropriate) to counteract all the silently disapproving (or almost worse--sad) head shakes and conspiratorial whispers from four feet away at the Target checkout. Maybe trampoline park guy just hasn't learned boundaries. <br />I wasn't there for the tone or body language ques but his confusion probably had more to do with the fact that he got bit for doing something he thought was nice (paying a "compliment" as he saw it) rather than inability to grasp the concept that he wasn't fit to comment on it at all. I'm a lot more forgiving of the ignorant than I am of people who should know better--friends and family whom I've briefed. Just please be gentle when you're setting guys like Trampoline Park Guy straight. I'd hate for him too look at me and my little flapper like "Oh, great: more of THOSE people."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-65245917233043594872015-07-14T23:36:13.970-04:002015-07-14T23:36:13.970-04:00I agree..................I am sure this person at ...I agree..................I am sure this person at the trampoline park was impressed with your son's ability while bouncing around and that the comment of being HF was a heartfelt statement. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-62457135178710241422015-07-14T23:13:13.103-04:002015-07-14T23:13:13.103-04:00Perhaps the staff member at this trampoline park w...Perhaps the staff member at this trampoline park was just saying that your son was "high functioning" because he saw his ability in a Trampoline Park and not in any other context. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-29666105802239522162015-07-14T09:53:31.389-04:002015-07-14T09:53:31.389-04:00When I see a child in public who I get the feeling...When I see a child in public who I get the feeling they are autistic; I dont comment on their autism until their parents do. I treat them like any other child I would see. I talk about cartoons and usually I hit on one they like. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-87580501309505014852015-07-13T22:28:58.964-04:002015-07-13T22:28:58.964-04:00I could have written this almost exactly . . . I h...I could have written this almost exactly . . . I hate functioning labels so much. They overestimate the abilities of those deemed *high functioning* and underestimate the abilities of those considered *low functioning*Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12496369099835004240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-45855126537699863762015-07-13T21:24:54.785-04:002015-07-13T21:24:54.785-04:00I love you! XoI love you! XoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06536754766203651115noreply@blogger.com