tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post6466751613871624469..comments2024-03-28T05:52:50.399-04:00Comments on Autism with a side of fries : Spotting one of our own. Eileen Shaklee http://www.blogger.com/profile/04658354442888448425noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-28299646030693982212015-06-05T09:52:28.014-04:002015-06-05T09:52:28.014-04:00I was not that mom, but I could have been. It'...I was not that mom, but I could have been. It's in public places like that when I feel so alone.... How I would have loved a fist bump or high five! <br />So, I think we need to get t-shirts made with "flap here often?" printed on them!Idenanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-81793076626594470322013-12-02T10:27:35.334-05:002013-12-02T10:27:35.334-05:00Love LOVE LOOOVE this idea. Anybody wants to ask m...Love LOVE LOOOVE this idea. Anybody wants to ask me "flap here often" - you will make my day!!!!! Full Spectrum Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11460737436704927666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-50428625215725728042013-10-08T22:24:29.198-04:002013-10-08T22:24:29.198-04:00This post is amazing and really should be on Huffp...This post is amazing and really should be on Huffpost Parents. Really beautiful. <br /><br />I don't have an aspie kid but I follow you because I like what you have to say, and I feel I can learn from you about autism so that when I encounter people who have autism I don't act like an ignorant twat. <3Kristen Mae at Abandoning Pretensehttp://abandoningpretense.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-49212346119365469892013-07-23T12:18:00.962-04:002013-07-23T12:18:00.962-04:00I agree with everyone and I expect to be approache...I agree with everyone and I expect to be approached by one of you all with a "flap here often" remark! ;) <br /> palavercrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13144158862064653287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-55236660528692888062013-07-23T11:06:50.374-04:002013-07-23T11:06:50.374-04:00Awesome... and yes, that is how i feel... it's...Awesome... and yes, that is how i feel... it's like radar... my kids are big 21,18 & 17... and when i see some one with a bittie, makes me want to walk over and say, it's a wilde ride, and it never stops but it really is worth it, and never fell you have to apologize for your child and your family... but of course i don't, I just smile my dorky smile...morentin1326https://www.blogger.com/profile/16814396170854225946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-34368964238744456902013-07-05T11:53:53.868-04:002013-07-05T11:53:53.868-04:00I'd wear one in a heart beat. I recently spott...I'd wear one in a heart beat. I recently spotted a little boy that almost instantly my husband and I exchanged a look, both knowing they were like us. We started a conversation but the A word is always hard to blurt out, I'd love the icebreaker!! Please email me at wonderfullymessy@gmail.com if you go through with this. I have a blog called "Wonderful Messy Days" if you'd like to check it out! Love the idea and its sweet of you to offer with such an open heart!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00447823376374499099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-10530315076326993402013-07-05T09:00:52.753-04:002013-07-05T09:00:52.753-04:00My son with ASD is 23 now…we all have that instant...My son with ASD is 23 now…we all have that instant "knowing," don't we? The post by "My Side of Typical" is perfect. Just perfect. I am exchanging a look, and I am smiling -- at all of you. With love,<br />Judy Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03493945792353390811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-90285989996265654192013-07-05T07:39:56.879-04:002013-07-05T07:39:56.879-04:00We recently moved to a medium-sized city, and I of...We recently moved to a medium-sized city, and I often see people that are clearly on the spectrum. But I'm always afraid of stepping on toes - my own aspie lack of tact & confidence - so I end up keeping my mouth shut. It would be great if there were some universal greeting we could use to acknowledge that we see each other and we're not alone! So I agree with everyone else: "Flap here often" should be an autism family's greeting. It would certainly break the ice when my boys are melting down in a store and half the shoppers stop to give dirty looks. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07946877679998427800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-91165088941015309492013-07-05T06:05:11.430-04:002013-07-05T06:05:11.430-04:00When coming across a child having a meltdown in pu...When coming across a child having a meltdown in public, I sidle up and say "got one of those at home"<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-28154758062441792032013-07-04T23:58:24.732-04:002013-07-04T23:58:24.732-04:00this is awesome I love it! as an adult on the spec...this is awesome I love it! as an adult on the spectrum i also wish i know what to say when i see other families. I worry i look to long or my smile seems wrong but for me it is nice to see other families too and know im not aloneNon Speaking Not Silenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06956450553296516222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-62035145701901183412013-07-04T19:46:07.164-04:002013-07-04T19:46:07.164-04:00Excellent!!! Nice timing!!1Excellent!!! Nice timing!!1Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-80674892162990136212013-07-04T02:06:10.765-04:002013-07-04T02:06:10.765-04:00Great post. I recently had a similar experience wh...Great post. I recently had a similar experience while out of town. The other mother and I exchanged a look and a smile. Nothing more was needed. A thousand words and thoughts were expressed in that look, we both knew it. We felt it. We were encouraged. We both knew we had found our kind. We are not alone. And my day was that much better.My Side of Typicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07947477203418309034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-52997833534749706382013-07-03T19:14:00.087-04:002013-07-03T19:14:00.087-04:00I LOVED "Flap here often". On our last ...I LOVED "Flap here often". On our last vacation, we were watching a family with kids our children's age on the same play equipment. Their little girl was probably seven, and she was sobbing and screeching, that peculiar scream that only those of us who have heard it before can know. I was mostly chasing my two because ... beach and ... play equipment ... and heat ... and other children .... and SUNSHINE SO BRIGHT IT MIGHT AS WELL BE BLARING MUSIC all equal sensory overload for mine. It was obvious that for whatever reason, the family was stuck here. They wanted to get that poor child somewhere quiet, cool, and dark, but it wasn't an option. We were behind a restaurant at the time. The play equipment belonged to a tiny mallish -- I won't try to explain Destin. If you haven't been there, it's impossible, and if you have, you go "Oh the boardwalk". Anyway, there wasn't a thing I could DO for these people, but I hated to stand by without acting. I finally worked up my nerve and touched the Mom's arm and said, "If it's sensory overload, my two like to sit under the tables. It's a little quieter and a little more dark." Now, these weren't the greatest tables for sitting under. They were designed with ants and seagulls in mind. But I think I connected with her for a second, so she'd at least know she wasn't the only parent out there with a kid on the spectrum. Because that ALONE feeling in the middle of a meltdown is the worst in the world. Jester Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10441806535770013592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-75298073178846291972013-07-03T18:25:21.138-04:002013-07-03T18:25:21.138-04:00I have two on the spectrum. A boy and a girl. Se...I have two on the spectrum. A boy and a girl. Seven and five. My son has Hashimoto's Thyroiditis. I began blogging this year about our life with autism. Please come by :)<br /><br />http://autismrethinkingfamily.blogspot.com/search?updated-min=2013-01-01T00:00:00-08:00&updated-max=2014-01-01T00:00:00-08:00&max-results=32Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13860343111773070871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-24329695242094493452013-07-03T17:28:12.634-04:002013-07-03T17:28:12.634-04:00Flap here often? This just made my day.Flap here often? This just made my day.Sanstrousershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10114472102131484886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-13360697367494994482013-07-03T16:50:00.701-04:002013-07-03T16:50:00.701-04:00Hi Kim,
My name is Chip
Got here via a Facebook po...Hi Kim,<br />My name is Chip<br />Got here via a Facebook post from my brother. This article reads as if it was written by someone observing him and his family. His son is 11. Well to my point, I just so happen to own a screen printing company. I can come up with a design with the slogan, or have members submit ideas until there is a common graphic everyone likes. I don't know what it would take to get it on the site or what the proper etiquette is to actually do this. I am willing to do whatever the rules allow to get one of these into anyone's hands that would like one. I have absolutely no desire to profit from this, just want to help in some small way. If there is an interest in having shirts made, I will be proud to do it. I can be reached at Chevyrcg@aol.com<br />Thanks for your time.<br /><br />ChipHeylarryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019901714563607722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-20788529808149009672013-07-03T16:45:24.858-04:002013-07-03T16:45:24.858-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Heylarryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019901714563607722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-80086667149083134402013-07-03T15:39:30.867-04:002013-07-03T15:39:30.867-04:00I don't approach others based on my instant di...I don't approach others based on my instant diagnosis (although I think I have a good eye) for many of the reasons mentioned above. However, if I notice they have an Autism charm or something I'll use that as a conversation opener and mention that I saw it and that my son is on the spectrum. <br />My son is almost 11 and still holds my hand often. I love it!Karlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02081189871476895948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-70168901434679262382013-07-03T15:17:56.204-04:002013-07-03T15:17:56.204-04:00"Flap here often?" PERFECT!"Flap here often?" PERFECT!<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07066530003625221591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-50669866758953561932013-07-03T15:17:16.782-04:002013-07-03T15:17:16.782-04:00Happy tears welling up in my eyes as I read this. ...Happy tears welling up in my eyes as I read this. Welcome to our crazy wonderful world everyone!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07066530003625221591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-8314168117048793652013-07-03T14:31:32.147-04:002013-07-03T14:31:32.147-04:00It is a weird dynamic, for sure.It is a weird dynamic, for sure.Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11538573774184028004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-23835204215984099782013-07-03T12:37:18.730-04:002013-07-03T12:37:18.730-04:00Love this post ! I'm reminded of "Autism ...Love this post ! I'm reminded of "Autism Awareness Month", everyone has magnets on the cars and flags out, blue porch light, (I'm still sporting the porch light)I was happy like YEAH !! MY TEAM !! but then it's over, for them. I'm sure your smile said it all , you know WE can spot pity a mile away and that Mom knew you meant well!! This post is very powerful! Thanks Momma Fry ! PS- Flap here often ? on a t-shirt !! :)Kim Phillipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00033441501815291464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-75977783131926546742013-07-03T08:42:58.420-04:002013-07-03T08:42:58.420-04:00I can spot my tribe also. Love this post. I rememb...I can spot my tribe also. Love this post. I remember someone from my tribe giving me comforting nod when Angel was on the brink of a meltdown. I was on edge. He did not know us but he understood and whispered, it is okay. I was so anxious. Tears came to my eyes because it was good to know that someone else understood.Miz Kp of Sailing Autistic Seashttp://www.sailingautisticseas.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-37774355611442641342013-07-03T08:27:20.836-04:002013-07-03T08:27:20.836-04:00Great message......some of us see and want to be a...Great message......some of us see and want to be able to help or just offer a word of encouragement but also have no opening line and fear we might offend. Some times that smile across the pool is just saying I recognize you and salute you. The smile says "I am glad you are here. Let me know if I can help in even the smallest of ways."<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644538309673050572.post-33947007766508634362013-07-03T08:23:00.565-04:002013-07-03T08:23:00.565-04:00I'd bet dollars to doughnuts that she saw you ...I'd bet dollars to doughnuts that she saw you and knew that your smile was just a smile. I hope you had a good vacation, too. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com