Monday, June 13, 2016

It was just a bowl of popcorn.

It was just a bowl of popcorn but it was so much more.

It was a step towards independence.

Friday was a tough one for us.  I woke up sick with a sinus and ear infection. (Yay me! I'm an overachiever.)  Kiddo was super anxious. I could tell he was headed towards a meltdown but I kept him moving and busy until the bus came. After that, it was out of my hands.

Two and half hours of sitting at the doctors for myself and then the pharmacy, I finally came home. I promptly laid down because I had a free hour and intended to rest while I could. Then I heard "Whiskey in the Jar", which is my ring tone on my phone. I opened one eye and peek to see who it was on the Caller I.D.. School. Well, that is never good. Another meltdown in class. Like a pretty bad one. One where I might want to start slamming back some whiskey in a jar because I am at the point with the Kiddo where I don't know what to do anymore.

I mean, I get it and luckily so does the school. He's leaving a place he's been at since he was five. Big HUGE change and transition to Middle School. Despite all the social stories, tours, and talks about the place, it's still the great unknown to him.  I knew we would see some behaviors with all this going on. I just didn't realize it would manifest like this. By this I mean, throwing furniture at school. Attacking staff that he normally greets with smiles, hugs, and high fives. It's breaking my heart. I don't know how to fix this. No one seems to know what to do either. It's a lot of "Well, once he starts the middle school and gets into a routine. He'll probably settle."  We all hope anyway.

He's not the only one freaking out about the great unknown here.  Is this a blip or a preview of more to come? I can't even wrap my head around this. How on earth can I get him ready for the world with this kind of behavior as a constant?  How can I make him be independent?  Despite my "I can never die" plan, I need to know this Kiddo can face the world.

So needless to say, I had a big old sobbing fest and pity party for one.  Eventually I stopped because I was already congested as Hell.  I didn't need to add to it. We would power through this. We have no choice.

But the doubts. There were still in the back of my head and they had set up shop. Moved in furniture. Painted the walls, hanged some pictures. They were there for the long haul.

The Kiddo also came home with a big surprise for me. It seems his teacher, correction, the whole school staff practically had ordered the #TeamQuirky shirts I sell and took a ton of pictures wearing them with the Kiddo.  She made a nice photo collage for us and framed it.  Cue more ugly crying tears and heaps more guilt about his behavior. They get him. They know this isn't him. They love him like I do.  God dammit, I'm crying again just typing this.

Needless to say, by end of the day I was pretty much spent. Despite being cheered at the sight of the Kiddo running around holding this picture to put in his room, I still licking my wounds. Feeling sorry for myself. Worrying about the future for the Kiddo.  I did the mature thing and made one with my couch and the TV remote cause I can't even drink on these damn antibiotics for my various infections!

And then the Kiddo swaggers in the family room.  One hand holding a cup of juice with a straw, the other a bowl of freshly made microwave popcorn. My husband had been sitting beside me the whole time. He didn't help him make it. I didn't help him make it. I'm pretty sure the dogs would have steered him to just take out the cold cuts for a snack if they could have helped. So it meant the Kiddo did it all on his very own.

Because when you settle down for your 5037504th viewing of The Polar Express, you need some popcorn. Mom and Dad are busy, so you'll just do it yourself.

I haven't taught him what to do but he's watched me countless times do it. He even went full foodie on me and sprinkled Parmesan cheese on top!

It was just a bowl of popcorn but it was also a sign that maybe, just maybe we would get through this.

Making popcorn counts as cooking a meal, right?  I mean, it sure was my meal in college many a night.  




8 comments:

  1. You are so brave and strong, and so is your Kiddo! It's okay to worry and stress when he shows you that he's still just your Kiddo, and that he still has trouble with big changes is something that will probably always be there for him. To keep myself sane, I have made this my mantra: Worry about what you can control, pray for what you can't. Remember, it's up to you, your child, and God. It's saved me an ulcer or two, as well as keeping peace at home with my Kiddo (I call him my Buddy). Good luck with all your changes this year, and I love reading your blog!

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  2. Parmesan cheese is really cool for popcorn.

    What other spices does Kiddo enjoy?

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  3. You will Rock middle school, he will rock
    Middle school...transitions are soooo impossibly hard!!! 💗💗💗

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  4. First of all, I feel like I need to know which version of Whiskey In A Jar it is. I'm a bit partial to Thin Lizzy myself.
    But onto the main show - we seem to be in similar places. I'm not sure how old your Kiddo is, but the Little Miss is 11 and entered puberty about a year ago. It's derailed her quite a bit and we are going through the same routine; furniture being hurled in class, phone calls from the school, etc. And I really, really wish I had some advice to help you out, but I don't! So maybe just not being the only one going through it might help a teensy bit.
    I also had a similar independence surprise this week. I was taking the washing off the line and had to go inside for a moment. When I came out, the Little Miss was finishing taking the washing off the line for me! All by herself, never been shown, never even thought to ask her! Naturally I grabbed the phone and plastered that shit all over Insta and FB.
    We've been lucky that she mastered heating up leftovers in the microwave when she
    gets hungry, but this was a whole new level, so I feel your big sense of achievement for something most families take for granted.
    I hope you get well soon. Getting sick is a bitch. Ain't nobody got time for that!

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  5. Glad you made it through a rough day. Yay for popcorn! My new fav flavor is candy cinnamon popcorn.

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  6. I loved this post. And yes, popcorn counts as a meal. So do chips...ask my kids.

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  7. Momma Fry, you got this! Wishing you all the best on your vacations and enjoy the parts you can. NT kid or kid with Autism, I need vacations away from my vacation. Always so much shuffling and planning. It becomes equally tiresome. But, bring on the wine. I'll even share a few bottles. ��

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  8. I feel your pain! Thankfully my 9 year-old boy has replaced his human punching bags with inanimate objects as a means of sensory input. Who would ever have thought this momma would look at entire panels of missing sheetrock and broken furniture and think, "Well, this is an improvement from where we were a year ago." Wishing you a blissfully boring day!

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