Thursday, June 26, 2014

7 Travel tips when your kid has autism

The school year has ended and we have some free time on our hands before the kiddo is back for ESY (extended school year) aka "summer school".  As I need to keep this kiddo busy and the hubby and I do enjoy travelling, it's time to pack up THE ENTIRE CONTENTS OF MY HOUSE and hit the road with autism as our co pilot.

Every trip we have taken has been an adventure and a learning experience for the next one.  While we haven't perfected it, we have gotten pretty good at some of the surprises that travel brings and lobs at your sleep deprived Oh my god why does my kid make so much noise while he sleeps at night head.

1) Confirm everything! What your room will include? I don't care so much about if my room has an iron when a fridge is way more important to our needs.  Places to eat? Check their menus online.  For us the most important thing is the pool.  Is it outside or inside and more importantly, open?  We once showed up at a hotel with a pool drained and being remodeled. We walked right out and booked another place in the car. Never again! For us, that's not even an option. 

2) Plan one event a day. Don't think you can pack in the Louvre in 15 minutes Griswold. You might not see as much now but you are traveling with autism. You can have a good time at one place or a miserable meltdown time at several. Know your limits and more importantly, your kid's.  We find writing out a list of what we were going to do each day and going over it with the kiddo over breakfast worked.  He could carry the schedule with him and check off each thing as we went throughout the day.  Sometimes we were able to sneak in more like going to a train museum and then taking a train ride after.  It presented itself as a smooth transition and we went with it.  With the kiddo we know when we spring something on him it has to be of high standing or he's not going for it.  Train rides and food usually do. 

3) Take breaks. Your kid is already off their schedule and out of their comfort zone. We use the pool. A lot. It helps regulate him and burn off some of that energy. We pack his sensory sock and some fidgets.  We also take breaks from breaks. Hubby and I tag team each other. He goes off and visits the 14th President of the United State's house aka Franklin Pierce.  I go to the spa for a massage. (Personally, I think my breaks are more fun but whatever.  I knew what I was getting into.  On our first vacation I did agree to going to see Martin Van Buren's home. Yeah, that's some true love right there.) 

4) Pack a power strip. Trust Mama on this one. Chargers for 2 phones, iPad, hand held games,  DVD player, iPod, digital cameras, laptops, etc... Outlet placements generally stink in hotels.  There are usually never enough of them.  This also keeps you organized if you have one designated charging station set up.  Chargers tend to grow feet and take a walk in my experience.  When you are packing up to go home, they will all be there.  

5) Take out is your friend. If your kid has had too much that day, comfort eating pizza in bed while watching TV is a glorious thing.  Is there anything better than that? I don't think so. Hotels know this. They usually have menus in the room to somewhere. Or ask the front desk.  Plus I scored coolness points having fries delivered to the room. It's not just your kid who gets worn out on vacation.  Doesn't the idea of sitting in your pajamas munching on mozzarella sticks sound good?  Eating out can be a challenge and by dinnertime sometimes all this family togetherness has just fried every last nerve.  Cut yourself a break, take off your bra and order in.  This is where the fridge in the room is a plus. Mama travels with a corkscrew and I have no problem drinking my wine out of a hotel plastic cup.  I keep it classy.  

6) Upon checking out of your room, leave a few bucks for housekeeping.  If your kid is anything like mine it will look like a whirling dervish ran through throwing fist full of broken Goldfish crackers everywhere.  I consider that good karma for the next trip.

7) If it ain't broke, don't fix it. This will be our third trip to the same resort.  We ALL love it there.  Plus my ideas of what is a vacation have changed since becoming a mom.  No cooking and cleaning for a few days? Works for me! This location for whatever reason makes my kiddo incredibly happy.  I suspect it's close proximity to two different historic train rides, an indoor and outdoor pool and parents who say "Sure you can have fries again!"  at every meal.  It's his vacation too.

So there you have it.  Wish me luck and pray to the travel gods I won't forget to pack the melatonin!


  1. You are so right about the pool and the fridge! We always tried to get a place with nearby or in-house restaurants, too. Good luck!

  2. I swear by Residence Inn. Full kitchens ftw! And I carry along my own hand vac. :)

  3. I rue the day I didn't ask if the room had a bathtub. Well, he was in the pool everyday, that counts, right?

    1. The amount of chemicals they put in there, totally counts. LOL

  4. I hope your vacation is wonderful and relaxing (if that is possible)!

    This is a great list. I think sometimes people need to "roll with it" too. Lots of people expect to have a perfect vacation and everything to go according to "the plan"... but a vacation with little people -will not- go according to plan. This is pretty much guaranteed. :-)

  5. Sounds great. My plan is to do a 6 month road trip around USA with my husband and son (asd). Your tips will come in helpful. Cheers and have a good time.

  6. i agree. two flat tires on day one of our beach getaway. i was pleasantly surprised by my kiddo. it was an adventure not an ordeal.

  7. We took 2 vacations this year with our family of 9 (1 has asd, another has a yet to be diagnosed behavioral disorder) and there is no question that the pool, the fridge and the power strip are all worth the investment. Laying out the rules for eating out before you order is also good (like how strict you will be with intolerance/allergens and stuff)

  8. "comfort eating pizza in bed while watching TV is a glorious thing" - Oh lord, yes! Did this in NYC - it is one of my favorite memories of the trip! Have a great vacation. :-)

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