"Is your child on medication?
You know the only person that's allowed to ask you that? Or let me put it this way, the only one that SHOULD ask you that? A medical professional. A doctor. A nurse. I'll even give you an EMT. That's it. Not a single other person should ever even think of saying this to you.
And yet, here I am. A good eleven years into all this autism stuff with my Kiddo and I heard it again and again and again this week. Three different people and no, not a single one is a developmental pediatrician in their spare time for kicks.
I'm really getting tired of being asked if my Kiddo is on medication or having it implied like it has never even occurred to us to put him on medication. It's always said in a tone of "Silly Mama Fry. Aren't you a lucky one to have run into me so I may bestow upon you such an idea." I'm suppose to either bow to their greatness to have told me about it or launch in a diatribe of why I am violently opposed to the idea.
Spoiler Alert! He already is and guess what, it's not the magic bullet that folks seem to think it is. While it may make some symptoms of his autism, OCD, anxiety, and ADD a tad bit better, it's not wiping the slate clean here with the issues and challenges facing him daily. I have no beef with medication. Hell, I'm even on some myself! I also have no problem with folks who want to go a different way about it. If that's your jam, you do you.
What I have a problem with this idea that this is going to be our problem solver cause it's so far from the case. For every case of kid on them that has seen good results, I can give you countless emails from parents who have tried the latest wonder drug only for their kid to have every horrible side effect known to man and then a few extra.
If you are a teacher, speech therapist, teacher's aide, or any sort of school professional, you know what might be a better way to inquire if the behavior you are seeing in a client and or student is medication or non medication related? Here's how to word it. My piece of advice to you. I won't even charge ya for it. ;-)
"Have you talked to your child's health care provider about these issues?"
Isn't that lovely? Not only does it address the issue but it reminds the parent just exactly where to go if that is an option that they may want to explore or not. Boom! You're job is done plus it opens the door for the parent to volunteer information like "Yes, we had to make a recent dosage change." or "Well we have thought about it but maybe it's time."
Pros, I have no problem sharing any information with you about my Kiddo that might help you do your job to the best of your ability. What I have a problem is when folks who aren't medical doctors starting throwing about the whole medication thing like it's going to be the salvation of my Kiddo that I was too stupid to even think about doing.
I warned ya I was feeling feisty. Now I'll just sit back and wait for all the comments from the pros who think I am Satan incarnate. ;-)
"Is my child on medication?" only makes me want to reply "Are you on any?"